The other day after I posted my We Are All Bullies post, I listened to an intriguing call on Dr. Laura.
She was talking to a husband of 22 years who was told for the first time that her spouse was sexually abused by a male sibling. He was upset and felt cheated of a loving wife. He struggled with her intimacy issues for 22 years and then was expected to just continue this one sided marriage.
Dr. Laura then said society has maintained the sacredness of the victim. The victim is not held accountable for their own behavior and end up harming most of their relationships.
It's honorable to help a victim get out of victim-hood. It is terrible to be so overly sympathetic that the victim can become a moody, self-centered, annoying person who takes for granted the nice people in their lives.
So, when you dwell, you are a living hell.
Criticize me if you want, but you've experienced this same type of person in your life.
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